Growth sounds glamourous until you realize it requires clearing out everything that can’t come with you – clutter, commitments, thought patterns, expectations, and sometimes even identities. Expansion isn’t just about doing more; it’s about making space, both energetically and physically, for what you’re calling in. When you feel stuck or stagnant; it’s rarely because you’re incapable – it’s because you’re full. There have been many times I have jumped from one thing to another to make money. I love to work and honestly, I thought making money was so important to reduce debt, to give my family the life I wanted them to have, but what I didn’t expect is the toll it would take on my mental health. Now, I still work quite a bit. I work full-time in the legal field (your girl is not an attorney so no legal advice here), run a transaction coordination business, and ultimately want to trade it all in to coach and be there for women who want to grow into their best version. In order to do all those things though, I had to take a step back, reevaluate my priorities, and work on myself and that has led me to where I am today.
What It Means to Create Space (Energetically + Physically)
Energetic space is the mental and emotional bandwidth required for new ideas, clarity, or opportunities. Physical space is your environment. It is your home, calendar, body, and physical habits. Expansion happens when these two forms of space match your intentions. When you try to expand without space, you burn out. When you are creating space without direction, you drift. The magic is in aligning both. For me energetic space is so important and is defined by a balance of accomplishing things on my to-do list whilst listening to my body and acknowledging when I need rest. My kitchen right now is a physical space that drains my energy. I really need to get in there declutter and reorganize that area so it feels lighter. My living room and bedroom though are both places that provide me peace and comfort.
Why We Resist Making Space (And What It Costs)
We cling to old patterns and clutter because they feel familiar. Physical clutter creates a sense of safety; energetic clutter creates a sense of identity. But both block expansion. When your calendar is overloaded, you signal that there’s no room for new opportunities. When your mind is cluttered with worry or obligation, creativity can’t land. Space isn’t empty – it’s receptive. Did you know that clutter can show up in your body? Tense muscles, headaches, clenching your jaws are all example of how we carry tension around clutter in our bodies.
The Emotional Side of Letting Go
Space requires release and release isn’t always simple. You might grieve an old identity. You might resist letting go of something that once served you. Clearing space reveals attachments you didn’t know you had. But every release creates a small doorway. And a collection of doorways become a path. One area I always struggle with is fear of the unknown. What if it doesn’t work out for me? It has me staying in the space of what no longer serves me, but keeps me trapped. Honestly, I have learned that sometimes you just have to take a leap of faith and trust the process. This isn’t always easy, but it is worth it.
The Magic That Happens After Space
Something always arrives. A new idea. A clearer direction. Unexpected opportunities. A calmer nervous system. More grounded decisions. Expansion rarely comes crashing in; it slips in quietly once you’ve made room for it. Space is the precondition for alignment. It’s where transformation begins. If you created space today, what would you hope might arrive? I am clearing out items that I don’t need any longer and I am hoping it brings in a calmer home that allows me a more relaxed atmosphere.
A Gentle Call to Action
You don’t need to overhaul your entire life. Start with one drawer, one conversation, one belief, one expectation, one corner of your mind. Space is not created all at once. It’s created moment by moment. And with each moment, you move closer to the expanded version of you that’s waiting on the other side of clutter, noise, and fullness.
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